Hi Scott:
I'm not sure exactly what you mean by your first question - the "toolbar" is integrated with the SharePoint ribbon and the title is part of the web part. So the Map Web Part's ribbon tabs will be rendered whereever the SharePoint ribbon is. You can move the ribbon by editing the aspx page's markup. The title shown above the web part cannot be moved, but it can be changed or hidden. Is this what you're asking about?
As to the rest, the answer is basically no. Version 2.0 of ArcGIS Mapping for SharePoint cannot be localized. We are planning to make 2.1 localizable, but right-to-left probably will not be supported yet.
... does anyone know if something has changed in 2.1.1 if Mapping for SharePoint supports arabic language now or if it is planned?